Friends, they help us live a happy life. Friendship is one of the relationships established by God so we could live with groups of people to whom we can share His love and blessings with. In one way or another, our friends have influenced us - our attitude, character, and personality. We created memories, good and bad, with them, which we treasure most. Memories with friends are irreplaceable and unforgettable. At times, when we remember those memories, we can't help smiling, laughing and even crying to ourselves. Why? Because they have been part of our lives and will always remain in our hearts even as we grow old in life.
There is a season when our groups of friends are inseparable. We are always with them, almost 24/7. We do most things with them, some even going on a shower with same sex friends. Hahaha. Choose class schedules where everybody can come together, making sure that no one is "left behind". Planning and going on outings and "get togethers" almost every week. Sometimes even drinking together during certain occasions, or share someone's heartaches and problems, or for no reason at all. Hehehe. Even when we're at home already, the bonding and communication never stops. We spent sleepless nights on the telephone or cellphone - by call, personal text, or group message. (Thanks to the unlimited calls and texts. Hehehe.) We just can't get enough of our friends. A day without them can be very gloomy and boring.
In this season, we share a lot of our personal lives to each other. Secrets, problems, concerns, troubles, happiness, blessings, and even our comments and feedback on random things and people. (Back-biting? Sort of. Hehehe.) Our friends become the outlet of our emotions and feelings. They help us smile and even laugh hard despite all the problems we have at the time. They share, with great joy, and celebrate with us in our happy times. Our true friends stick with us through the extreme times of our lives.
Also, who can ever forget the times we had fights with each other? Those were tough times, but remembering it is so much fun. (Hehehe.) Words that hurt us so much were released and spoken intentionally and unintentionally. Seemed like it's the end of the world. Seemed like World War III was about to begin. Sudden burst of anger and emotions exploded like nuclear bombs. (Hahaha.) Yes, remembering those fights can really be fun, especially if the reasons and causes of those great fights were very minimal and might even have no sense at all. One thing that is so great about those fights was how it helped the friendship grew stronger. It did test our friendship, and in the end we grew even closer to each other.
But, there is also a season in friendship when each of us has to live our lives separately. Our individual situations and personal dreams lead us to different directions and brought us to different places. Distance separates us in this season. We live the life we want to live. We go and achieve our dreams and goals. We leave so we can do and fulfill our responsibilities. We face what is inevitable and take charge of our personal lives. We leave, even though it is hard to do.
In this season, we miss our friends and we spend hours reminiscing those memories we created with them. But still, despite the distance, our friendship still continues to deepen. We also spend long hours chatting or calling each other. (Thanks to the modern technology; and especially to websites like Facebook, Twitter, Skype and Yahoo!) This season is also a way to test the friendship established. Distance shouldn't be a problem. Communication shouldn't be a concern. If you really want it, you can always find a way to communicate with your friends. The love and support we shared while we're together personally can also be shared even when we are miles apart. This is the season when true words, words that are really sincere and honest, will be more meaningful than ever. Actions are not seen and felt physically, but true words are heard (or read) and felt in the heart.
Whichever season your friendship is in right now, what matters most is your love for each other. No man is an island - it's time you look around and recognize who your true friends are. No matter how far (or near) you are from each other, you must work on that friendship and let nothing destroy it. Like any other relationships, friendship takes time and effort to grow. It's a 2-way street where each one must work on and put something in it so it would grow stronger as days pass by.
By: Jaea Frzyl Hidalgo Conde
Date: August 11, 2010 (finished at 3:57am)
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